My Adult Views

Such a strange thing has happened, I still can't believe it. My ex-boyfriend that I used to live with, has called and asked me if I would go with him to a speed dating group with him. I thought that was really strange for him to ask. It's been about 4 months since I had spoken with him. I moved out at that time, and haven't heard from him since. Then he calls me out of the blue and asks me about the speed dating group. When we were living together, at first I thought that we would be a good partner and eventually would become my husband. We did get along pretty well at first, but then suddenly he changed. He got really defensive about everything, and really became kind of mean. I remember asking him if it was something that I had done to make him act that way. He said that it wasn't me, it was him. He had some stuff that he had to work out in his head. He had said that he thought it probably would be better if I move out. That touch my heart, it was very painful to hear those words coming from him. I had gotten pretty hurt by that. In a way I don't think I really got over that pain.

I had asked him why was he calling me out of nowhere asking me to go to a speed dating group with him. Especially the way that he had hurt me before. He said that he never meant to hurt me, that he was doing it to save my feelings. I told him that it would have been better if he would have sat down with me and talked it over like I wanted in the first place. He was the one who didn't want to talk about it, he just wanted me to leave. I left without answers. I left without any closure to what had just happened. I didn't push him to talk to me, I respected his feelings and left. I really thought at the time that he would call me and explain things once he had some time to think, and work things out in his head. I have tried to call him, but he changed his phone number and he moved. So there was no way for me to get hold of him. So, the answer was that I was not going to the speed dating group with him. Why should I?